What & # 39; ve all had those times in life where you wanted something so that we could be the taste, feel or hear. You know what you & # 39; I speak. This could be the girl of your dreams, the car of your dreams or just the dream job you & # 39; I ve always wanted. But one thing is for sure, we all were there.
When things they really want badly, the word comes to my head & # 39; Despair & # 39;.
my experience, nothing leads to the target farther away from you than despair.
It & # 39; s funny, though, that some schools of thoughts desperate equal to the target, or he wanted to so much, shows the universe or God how seriously think that the goal or objective.
I do not think so personally. It is my experience that they want something enough, or desperate about it only leads one to the wrong decisions. No decisions on the flow or joy or gratitude. No way! If the state of despair, it is almost on the verge of feeling hopeless, or give up completely (negative sense).
Here & # 39; s friend & # 39; After s account of his experience of university studies completed, all in desperate need of money and support, and how to overcome the power of the challenges in taking advantage of remission
"so desperate for money once, I almost feel a money-laundering ring in the circumstances interesting look back. . Looking back it & # 39;. and as if some force out to make wrong decisions through financial desperation Let me move on to the details
girlfriend of four years at the time broke up with me, saying that he needed & # 39;. map & # 39; the first, so there is no obvious reason When I look back, that is meant to protect the fact that he had met someone who met him during the financial needs Note that both students at the time
… So it became a month for three months, then began to drop tidbits is the fact that he started dating a hint for me, once again, that will soon appear in other people told him not to worry as I & # 39th; m in the process of looking for work, so we & # 39; ll put that on the back burner.
I was a fairly decent lad at the time, not worrying a lot of money and material things. The main concerns have been keeping my mind, the body and mind active and positive attitude charitable pursuits.
We turned to the & # 39; The dark side & # 39; I got the call that fateful day, my then-girlfriend, who just wanted to & # 39; Map & # 39;. He called me to explain that he & # 39; ll you sent me some pictures in a new hairstyle. I was like the cool, because he knew I liked her hair cut short. So he sent the photos by e-mail, and I saw this car; This is a very sexy drop top Beetle. I thought it was one of his girlfriend, so I was like, "You look sexy in a car. Which friend of yours has this beauty from her wealthy father," I said jokingly. Then he dropped the bomb on me. He said, "This car is a guy I & # 39; m He had seen & # 39;. And have a successful business and he & # 39; s thirties." My jaw dropped.
Please note that we & # 39; the students. Whatever money I put my side job, I shared this girl because I loved. I was away for a few months to graduate, and an active job search.
When he said those words, I felt as if I was stabbed. We are the salt was a pity that he is considered & # 39; good man & # 39; and why I'm glad with her newfound & # 39; friends & # 39;. I was angry, I started to shout into the phone and then hung up.
Thus began the level of despair and depression. I could not sleep for two nights as my blood was boiling. So I'm aware of the fact that he was moving. The only strange thing is that he wanted to keep in touch with me, I totally against. I was okay with it for a few months and then the whole of December, things have a turn to the worst.
I got an innocent text first, that 'Hey, what are you doing for Christmas? " I was like, 'nothing, just chilling. And you? " Boy, I opened a world of emotional pain for myself asking an innocent question. He went on to tell me how there will be a new friend & # 39; s parents & # 39; s home country during the Christmas holidays and that she can introduce him to her family.
Note that we were together, it was four years and four months later he met this guy. "
Enter desperation level two.
desperation level, two interesting that wants quick money, coupled with the desire for revenge and greed.
" So here I was desperate cash and wanting revenge, to prove that you can get the money, because like my ex girlfriend showed the material well-being was a weakness, and I was a tight end to the scale assets.
I was on a mission to make quick money in as little time as possible, and the evidence to prove that your ex that I can be financially successful as well. A terrible combination! Was I accepted the fact that my ego was injured and emotionally scarred, I have gotten it quicker. But it seems to me there were other plans in life. "
Releasing wants to control the outcome of the situation can be the hardest thing, but perseverance, you will be successful.
" I started hanging out with the wrong crowd, engaging in shady financial transactions, and taking into account money laundering. I just wanted to have it all, money, cars, women. The promise of huge amounts of money in the bank account only to a middle man, very tempting, especially if you are a broke student who had just finished college, and they need jobs to pay the bills.
This was only the second thwarted by dubious financial transactions to realize just was not meant to be, and I have to walk away.
I & # 39; I've heard stories of divine intervention, but I have never experienced such until one day I felt very low because there is no money, ego and a wounded heart.
I was depressed over the road, when suddenly the words rang clear in my mind: ".. You're not a loser was designed to manage all is not lost yet." It felt like the scene in Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King, where Frodo collapses after the fight in the ring Gollum, Shelob external & # 39; s lair. Frodo collapses, you just have to give a hand to the lady Galadriel in the Wood Elves, whispering words of encouragement to him.
was more, but he was so inspired that I bought another one in my life for the better.
I ended all communication with the then ex-girlfriend, who seemed to be getting some sort of twisted pleasure of rubbing in my face all the things that were new to her friend, I could not, because of the costs. In the New Testament of the Bible, Jesus Christ said: "Forgive your enemies 77 x 7" and "turn the other cheek." I do, but that one step further, I will forgive, but instead of forgetting what I remember to keep a mental note, and Chuck has been seen.
started to accepted financial and relationship situations, and want to let go of control of my life in terms of the results achieved goals I set. I started investing in self-help courses, such as the Sedona Method, started the meditation and the emotional freedom technique (EFT) is touched.
really helped me, and I will continue to practice to this day.
Returning to the story, having started the acceptance and letting go, I started going out and dating again, and had relations with three other beautiful young woman. It must be emphasized that this would not have been the case that I was desperate for a relationship. It & # 39; It s strange, because the opposite was true. Not looking for a relationship at all. I was just out for fun.
As for the physical, I began to exercise more and I have had a better place to physical health. I received frequent compliments my physique, and how well I look. Here, we show again that I did not look to some sexy studs. Just exercise because I feel more alive, and the gym was perfect for me to escape dead-end job, and my crappy life circumstances.
Now, with regard to the financial implications of my life, the situation is a little ticklish; I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. What I mean is that I find it hard not to want more money when the money is just the thing needed to pay the rent, buy food and transportation costs. To really a dilemma for me. I struggled with it for a while, then gave up, never left wanting to control their own financial future.
Understand that want to control it, and to effectively control two different things.
struggled financially for 3 months until I decided to go back to my parents & # 39; home of the city. My entire focus was on rehabilitation followed. But an interesting thing happened: while back, I received two job offers. Here I would like to stress again that I do not want a job at the time. I gave myself six months to regroup myself and landed the job when you are not getting one. "
Thus ends my friend & # 39; s story I gathered enough knowledge to take and I hope the reader gleans some valuable insights
Therefore, the important thing is that something.. they want to want desperately to relative, then let go, they would like to, it seems, in my experience, to push the object further away from the desires of you.
What do you currently desire desperately to the thought of letting go will disappear irresponsible? it's a better career? is it more money to clear the overwhelming debt? it is a partner wants to feel less lonely?
Whatever it is, we think, five years into the future. Imagine that this to achieve the objective. now imagine that in the future I do. What would you tell a struggling self at this moment? Could you tell yourself that remains desperate and needy are concerned about the goal or desire? or do you, as a future self, he says on the fight itself to just relax and your life one day at a time, because eventually you will achieve your goal?
The thing about goals is that sometimes you worry too much, or let the anxiety or pressure to get better for us. The goal may not be obvious if we want to, but it will manifest. One is that the first patient with ourselves, the universe.
Releasing a & # 39; s expectations are the most important. This is not to be confused with inaction. You're doing the right thing than to dream up care, do not you daily show, say the allegations, meditate, pray, whatever it takes to keep that positive mood. But you also have to let go of the attachment to the expected outcome, because the other miracle can manifest to achieve the trip the target, which may or may not notice because you're so obsessed with the specific goal and a limited understanding of its outcome.
So, take a deep breath, relax, and practice letting go of expectations, and accelerate the manifestation of your goal, or vision, or something even better.
There are many courses out there that facilitate the acceptance and release processes. Some of the techniques I use everyday are the Sedona Method and the Silva Life System.